How to Write Wedding Vows that Truly Speak from the Heart
Well it’s obvious from the reaction of our groom Martin below, that his bride Shanice knew how to write wedding vows that truly speak from the heart. She shared the story of how they met and included some funny details that only the two of them knew. This made their ceremony so fun and personal, and produced this amazing photo taken by our preferred wedding photographer Amp’t Images at our Colorado Wedding venue.
Writing wedding vows that genuinely reflect your feelings requires moving beyond generic templates to capture what makes your relationship unique. The most meaningful vows combine personal storytelling with heartfelt promises for the future. At The Bella Sera Event Center. we’ve hosted thousands of wedding ceremonies over the past 21 years. Our favorite vows are those that really move the other partner, or make them laugh, or make everyone laugh. We love it when couples write personal vows and at least tell something about “their story”. We’ve found that the guests connect on a deeper level with the couple when they learn more about their personal love story. Remember, not everyone at your wedding will know the details of your love story the way your parents or best friends might.
Start your vows by sharing your story together.
Think about the moment you knew this person was special, a challenge you overcame as a couple, or a small daily ritual that represents your love. These specific memories create an emotional foundation that resonates with both your partner and your guests. Instead of saying “you make me happy,” describe the exact moment you realized they were your person.
Focus on concrete promises rather than abstract concepts.
While “I promise to love you forever” sounds nice, vows like “I promise to bring you coffee in bed on Sunday mornings” or “I promise to listen when you need to talk through a problem” can feel more authentic and actionable. There are vows that truly do express how many of us feel when we fall in love though, like “Suddenly there in you was everything I would ever need. I knew it the first time we met, and I know now that you are my everything.” or “There’s no doubt in my heart that you’re my person and I can’t wait to spend the rest of my life with you.” or “I thought today would be the best day of my life, but the thought of spending the rest of my days with you, makes me believe the best is yet to come.”
Think about what your partner actually needs from you and what you can realistically commit to doing or saying in front of dozens of people.
Keep your natural voice.
If you’re naturally funny, include gentle humor. If you’re more serious, embrace that tone. Your vows should sound like you speaking from the heart, not like you’re reading someone else’s words. Read them aloud several times to ensure they flow naturally when spoken.
Address your partner directly.
Use “you” statements and speak as if you’re having an intimate conversation. This creates a more personal connection than speaking about your relationship in third person to the audience.
Balance vulnerability with celebration.
Share something meaningful about how they’ve changed you or supported you through difficulty, but also celebrate the joy and growth you’ve experienced together. The best vows acknowledge both the serious commitment you’re making and the happiness you’ve found.
Practice timing and length.
Aim for one to two minutes when spoken aloud. Write them out completely rather than using bullet points, and practice reading them several times so you can maintain eye contact and emotional connection during the ceremony.
The vows that truly speak from the heart are the ones that capture not just your love, but your specific love story and the real promises you want to make for your shared future.
Something a bride may write in her vows
“I promise to be your teammate in this beautiful, messy, wonderful adventure we’re calling marriage. I’ll celebrate your victories like they’re my own, comfort you through disappointments, and probably steal your hoodies for the rest of our lives.
Most importantly, I promise to choose you every single day – not just when it’s easy, but especially when it’s hard. Because loving you has taught me that the very best things in life are worth fighting for.
I can’t wait to see what kind of beautiful chaos we create together. Here’s to a lifetime of inside jokes, spontaneous dance parties, and growing old disgracefully together.”
Something a same sex couple may write in their vows
“You’ve taught me what it means to love fearlessly. In a world that hasn’t always made space for love like ours, you’ve shown me that our love doesn’t need anyone’s permission to be real, to be powerful, to be worthy of celebration. You’ve been my safe harbor when the storms of doubt crept in, and my biggest cheerleader when I needed courage to be authentically myself.”
Something a groom may write in his vows
“I love your terrible singing in the car, your inability to keep plants alive, and the way you scrunch your nose when you’re concentrating. I love how passionate you get about causes you believe in, how you make everyone around you feel like they matter, and how you’ve made me want to be a better man every single day since we’ve been together.”
It Doesn’t Have to Be Difficult to Know How to Write Wedding Vows that Truly Speak from the Heart
Follow a basic structure! Most vows include these elements:
- An opening statement about what this moment means
- What you love about your partner (specific qualities, memories, or moments)
- Promises for your future together
- A closing commitment statement
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Written by owner – Elisabeth Montoya
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