7 Unique and Creative Ways to Incorporate Your Siblings in Your Wedding

 

Congratulations on your recent engagement!!   You must be so excited!  Between finding the perfect venue and choosing flowers for the bridal party bouquets, the amount of decisions that need to be made can be overwhelming.  We completely understand… To make things harder, everyone you’ve ever known probably feels connected to your wedding, in some way or another.  The last thing you want to do as a couple is hurt someone’s feelings!  To help make sure everyone feels involved, we recommend giving those special people a role in the wedding… While we can’t tell you how long to make that Mother-Son dance, we can offer advice as to how to incorporate your siblings in your wedding in a practical and creative way!

7 Unique and Creative Ways to Incorporate Your Siblings in Your Wedding:

1. Flower Girl/Ring Bearer

we know this might seem like an obvious solution… but we wanted to put all of the power in the couple’s hands. There is no rule that says a couple can only have 1 Flower Girl and 1 Ring Bearer – if you have multiple siblings, invite them all be a part of the entourage of adorable support!

2. The Officiant

If you have a sibling you are especially close with, consider asking them to legally bind the most important decision of your life!  Just make sure they are old enough to become a licensed officiant!  Not only would it save you a few dollars on the officiant fee, but it would bring the family closer together than ever before!

3. Master of Mimosas!

Have a sister in need of a special role? Ask her to be in charge of keeping the environment fun and lighthearted while everyone is getting ready!  She’ll love the job and you can sit back and relax before your grand entrance.

4. Groomsmen/Bridesmaid

Again, we understand this might feel like a standard role… However, many couples are afraid of hurting their siblings’ feelings if they aren’t “all” in the wedding party or aren’t the Best Man/Maid of Honor. We are here to say… choosing your best friend over your sibling is not going to permanently damage your relationship.  They love you and completely understand that this day is yours – they are just happy to have any role given!

5. Shoe Game Commentator

If your wedding party is full of best friends and you were limited by size… Don’t be afraid to ask your siblings to play a more unique role that is just as fun! They will love that they still have a special place in your day and will completely understand your situation.  First of all, if you’ve never heard of the Shoe Game, you should Google it.  But the point of this option is to ask that special sibling to be the Master of Games for your reception.  Let them talk to the audience, ask you and your spouse the questions, and let them put their spin on the game.  It will be a once in a lifetime opportunity to make memories you will cherish forever!

6. The Pipes!

Yes, you read correctly. We love when our couples ask a sibling to sing their first dance.  It’s a beautiful and unique opportunity to get the wedding receptions guests invested in the event… not to mention everyone is always amazed at their talent!  It’s a win-win for everyone.

7. Scripture/Inspirational Quote Reader

If you are looking for a traditional religious ceremony having a sibling come to the front and read a scripture can be a perfect way to incorporate them in a wedding day role! Even a modern agnostic ceremony can use this suggestion and have the reader recite a meaningful quote or saying.  Just make sure you send them the entry in advance, so they can rehearse the part and understand where you want inflection, versus “tender moments”.

Involving you siblings in your big day will go a long way in that lifelong relationship.  They are there to witness the addition of a new family member and want to support you every step of the way.  Keep in mind that they love you and have known you their entire lives.  You getting married means big changes for everything they’ve ever known!

Congratulations, again.  You’re now ready to move on to dinner entrée choices.  Happy Tasting!

Add a Personal Touch to Your Wedding with a Slideshow


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Planning on your reception being memorable and special? Of course you are!  But, the details and planning of how the guests will experience it brings up many questions and is vital to the overall success of the day. If they arrive before cocktail hour, what will they do?  What will they do during the down time before the arrival of the wedding party? How can you share memories of yourselves with new family members? A slideshow can be your solution to entertaining and connecting family members and friends with you and your spouse through funny and meaningful photos of you two throughout your lives.

What You’ll Need

When you are searching for wedding venues, ask the venue if they have a projector and screen you can use for a slideshow. Most do have a projector that either comes with the venue rental or requires a rental fee. However, knowing if there are extra costs will help you plan out when and where the show will be displayed. This will also help you figure out what other materials (extension cords, table, screen, etc.) you will need. You will also need a laptop to run the slideshow, so make sure you have access to one and definitely make sure you have the right adapter—no one wants to be running to the nearest Best Buy at the last minute to buy an adapter!   

Once you have the projector, computer, and screen ready to go, it’s now time for the fun part—getting together all of those photos of you and your future spouse! You can put this task on a few people since going through pictures may require legwork, but your family and friends will be happy to help you. You could set up an evening with some family members and family members-to-be and have a picture party. Grab some pizza and wine and you have an instant bonding sesh! Involving family and friends in this process will give them the opportunity to contribute!  PLUS – it will be a good conversation starter at the wedding when they see the photos that they picked up on the screen.

What Kind of Photos

As far as what photos to choose for the slideshow, side-by-side baby photos, school/graduation photos, prom photos, etc. are a fun way to show you two growing up and changing. You can also use candid photos, awkward pre-teen photos, family photos, engagement photos, photos of you and people in the bridal party, and basically anything that would connect to family members and friends. Bonus points if you include photos of you and people who will attend your wedding!

How will you arrange your slideshow? You can use iMovie to arrange the photos and layer music in the background, and be sure not to use funky transitions that could be overwhelming! Choose a couple songs to play in the background—make sure the songs aren’t too slow or too fast, because that could be distracting as well. Aim for 5-7 minutes (which won’t be too short or so long that it starts to drag.

How to Get It Right

On the technical side, don’t forget to make a backup file in case one gets damaged. Store these on a flash drive or a cloud storage system like Dropbox, Google Drive, or iCloud. Test-drive the slideshow while you’re setting up the day before if you have access to the projector then. Designate someone to run the slideshow—often DJs take this responsibility because they will be playing the music/making announcements at that time. Do not put the responsibility on anyone in the wedding party or yourself—you won’t have time!

After you have done the legwork in getting the slideshow put together, then you can rest easy knowing that your reception will have one personal touch. Guests will love to see photos old and new on your wedding day.  After all, the day is about connecting with new family and friends and old.  Slideshows are also a great way to start that union with bonding over memories! You and your guests will remember it for years to come.

 

Looking for other fun ideas?  Check out our post on fog screens!

A Sand Ceremony

In a previous blog post we gave The Unity Candle Ceremony its time in the spotlight, now we want to share some details on another type of unity ceremony, “The Sand Ceremony”.  An equally beautiful element to incorporate into your wedding ceremony timeline, the Sand Ceremony offers thoughtful and meaningful symbolism.

The Sand Ceremony consists of a unity vessel and two or more bottles of colored sand. Sometime after the formal vows, the bride and groom take turns pouring their chosen color of sand into the vessel.  When couples are blending families, they will have several bottles of different colored sand for each child also. The flowing sands and blending colors of the Unity Sand Ceremony symbolize the bringing together of two lives into one or two families into one. The separate sands symbolize everything that the bride and groom have been in the past and by combining them, it symbolizes their future together. Once the two sand colors are poured into the unity vase, they can never be put back into their separate vases. They are forever entwined and interconnected just as the lives of the bride and groom are joined, and their children are joined. Many officiants beautifully communicate to the guests how the separate sands once poured into the unity vase can never be put back into their separate vases. They are forever entwined just as the lives and love of the bride and groom.

The Sand Ceremony is one of the many different types of symbolic unity ceremonies that can be incorporated into your wedding ceremony; and at the Bella Sera it is truly important to us to share the meanings and significance behind each one so our couples can choose one that is the perfect fit!

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