7 Unique and Creative Ways to Incorporate Your Siblings in Your Wedding

 

Congratulations on your recent engagement!!   You must be so excited!  Between finding the perfect venue and choosing flowers for the bridal party bouquets, the amount of decisions that need to be made can be overwhelming.  We completely understand… To make things harder, everyone you’ve ever known probably feels connected to your wedding, in some way or another.  The last thing you want to do as a couple is hurt someone’s feelings!  To help make sure everyone feels involved, we recommend giving those special people a role in the wedding… While we can’t tell you how long to make that Mother-Son dance, we can offer advice as to how to incorporate your siblings in your wedding in a practical and creative way!

7 Unique and Creative Ways to Incorporate Your Siblings in Your Wedding:

1. Flower Girl/Ring Bearer

we know this might seem like an obvious solution… but we wanted to put all of the power in the couple’s hands. There is no rule that says a couple can only have 1 Flower Girl and 1 Ring Bearer – if you have multiple siblings, invite them all be a part of the entourage of adorable support!

2. The Officiant

If you have a sibling you are especially close with, consider asking them to legally bind the most important decision of your life!  Just make sure they are old enough to become a licensed officiant!  Not only would it save you a few dollars on the officiant fee, but it would bring the family closer together than ever before!

3. Master of Mimosas!

Have a sister in need of a special role? Ask her to be in charge of keeping the environment fun and lighthearted while everyone is getting ready!  She’ll love the job and you can sit back and relax before your grand entrance.

4. Groomsmen/Bridesmaid

Again, we understand this might feel like a standard role… However, many couples are afraid of hurting their siblings’ feelings if they aren’t “all” in the wedding party or aren’t the Best Man/Maid of Honor. We are here to say… choosing your best friend over your sibling is not going to permanently damage your relationship.  They love you and completely understand that this day is yours – they are just happy to have any role given!

5. Shoe Game Commentator

If your wedding party is full of best friends and you were limited by size… Don’t be afraid to ask your siblings to play a more unique role that is just as fun! They will love that they still have a special place in your day and will completely understand your situation.  First of all, if you’ve never heard of the Shoe Game, you should Google it.  But the point of this option is to ask that special sibling to be the Master of Games for your reception.  Let them talk to the audience, ask you and your spouse the questions, and let them put their spin on the game.  It will be a once in a lifetime opportunity to make memories you will cherish forever!

6. The Pipes!

Yes, you read correctly. We love when our couples ask a sibling to sing their first dance.  It’s a beautiful and unique opportunity to get the wedding receptions guests invested in the event… not to mention everyone is always amazed at their talent!  It’s a win-win for everyone.

7. Scripture/Inspirational Quote Reader

If you are looking for a traditional religious ceremony having a sibling come to the front and read a scripture can be a perfect way to incorporate them in a wedding day role! Even a modern agnostic ceremony can use this suggestion and have the reader recite a meaningful quote or saying.  Just make sure you send them the entry in advance, so they can rehearse the part and understand where you want inflection, versus “tender moments”.

Involving you siblings in your big day will go a long way in that lifelong relationship.  They are there to witness the addition of a new family member and want to support you every step of the way.  Keep in mind that they love you and have known you their entire lives.  You getting married means big changes for everything they’ve ever known!

Congratulations, again.  You’re now ready to move on to dinner entrée choices.  Happy Tasting!

Fun Beer Can Wedding Cake for Groomsmen

Grooms beer can wedding cake

 

 

What’s the purpose of a Beer Can Wedding Cake you ask?

Well, weddings are a celebration for everyone involved, and we all know that most guys like to have fun sharing a beer or two when they all get together. So why not offer them their favorite canned beers in the shape of a wedding cake on your wedding day?

This is not to suggest for the guys to get drunk before the ceremony begins, just a celebratory beer presented in a fun and unique way while the groom gets ready with all of his closest buddies or siblings.

There are so many creative ways to incorporate fun into your wedding, and this is one idea that is always a hit with the men. When the groomsmen arrive, the groom will have purchased the Beer Can Wedding Cake from the bar and will have it waiting for them in their Dressing Room. Just watch their reactions when they see it; they love it!

Whether it’s Budweiser, Coors, Premium Beers, or non-alcoholic drinks, we create fun, personalized beer cake toppers too that will instantly have your groomsmen cheering, taking photos and enjoying the creative kickoff to a wonderful celebration.

Beer Can Wedding Cake_Bella Sera Event Center

Groom's beer cake_Bella Sera Event Center

 

This is just one of the many ways The Bella Sera incorporates original ideas to help our couples personalize their wedding and increase the enjoyment with a fun element of surprise for the guys.

 

Cheers!

 

 

Written by Elisabeth Montoya – Co-owner and Lead Designer for The Bella Sera Event Center

www.TheBellaSera.com

 

 

 

 

Reserved vs. Open Seating at a Wedding

 

 

Do We Need a Guest Seating Plan? What are the pros and cons of reserved seating vs. open seating at a wedding?

We get asked these questions all the time. Our answer to the seating plan is always, YES, unless it is a small intimate wedding. Let me explain why. We know it sound stressful and like a lot of work to assign every single guest to a table, but our experience shows us that the guest experience is much better when there is a plan and feelings don’t get hurt.

 

You may ask, “If we rent the exact number of chairs as our guest count, why would there be any problems if we just have open seating?” One of the first things that comes to mind is that “people will be people”, and everyone is afraid of missing out on what they perceive to be the best table. We’ve seen the mad rush happen too many times into the dinner reception room, and if your immediate family is taking photos, they may end up sitting in the corner. Secondly, it never works out when there’s open seating for large weddings unless you pay to have a few extra-decorated tables. The reason is because families come in odd and even numbers; if a family of 7 sits at the last open table, and there’s a family of 4 left standing who can’t fit seats together, they will complain that there is nowhere for them to sit, even if there are seats available at several other tables. Make sense?

Elaborate Guest Seating Poster

A seating plan will ensure that couples, friends and families who want to sit together, can. Elderly guests will also thank you, as they may not want to sit close to the speakers or far from the bathrooms; they also appreciate sitting where they can see and hear the formalities. Although some guests may not get to sit exactly where they would have preferred, assigned seating will greatly reduce the amount of unhappy guests and create an overall better guest experience. Keep in mind, that guests can always move around if they please or squeeze in a few people from another table too.

 

 

A Sweetheart Table or Large Head Table For The Entire Wedding Party?

More often than not, your wedding party members will have spouses, dates or families they would like to sit with during dinner. This is why so many couples choose a sweetheart table over a large head table that only includes their wedding party. A nice alternative is to have the sweet heart table in the center, and tables on each side of it assigned to your wedding party and their significant others. This option keeps everyone close by the married couple, and gives the wedding party the opportunity to enjoy their families also. Believe it or not, the married couple does not sit at their dinner table very long. Typically the couple gets bombarded with loving guests who want to congratulate them; they will then eat, and eventually get up and begin visiting each table fairly quickly.

 

However, many brides have dreamt of a large head table with their entire wedding party on each side of them. If this is something that is very important to you, it is absolutely your preference to choose this option. A long, beautifully decorated head table is always a wow factor and main focal point of the reception room. It’s your choice.

 

Family Seating at a Wedding

 

Families come in all shapes and sizes, and it’s not uncommon for divorced parents to want their own tables. This is another plus for creating a seating plan. Every couple’s situation is unique. If both of your parents are friends, they may want to all sit together in front of your table. If they are close to the officiant, and there are several grandparents, you may choose to have two or three tables near your table. It’s best to work this out with your venue and draw up the floor plan at least a month prior to your wedding to begin thinking this through. The farther in advance you start thinking about this, the less stress you will have as you approach your big day. Get your Mom’s involved, if it becomes too stressful, they will be thrilled to be involved and help you with your seating plan.

 

 

How to Assign Guests to Dinner Reception Tables

 

As for the rest of your guests, it’s always best to put people together who know each other, or who have common interests and would enjoy sitting together. The main thing to remember is that the dinner segment doesn’t last all night. Eventually your goal is to get your guests up and on the dance floor or actively involved in your celebration, so don’t stress too much about the seating arrangements. Set a plan, and remember there may be some guests sitting with people they may not know very well. It will be ok! If your table is centered in the middle of the room, everyone should have a great seat. If your head table is at the far end of the room, it will be more challenging to keep the guests happy who are at the back of the room. Keep this in mind before choosing a venue.

 

 

Seating Plans for Children

If you have children yourselves, you may want to seat them with you at your table. However, many times they have more fun sitting with cousins and grand parents since you will be pulled in many directions. Although the idea of a kids only table, with coloring books and fun activities sounds like a great idea, most of the time children won’t remain at that table when dinner starts. It’s sort of like Thanksgiving where they want to sit at the “big table.” Most children want to sit next to their parents instead of at a kid’s table in the corner. This doesn’t mean they won’t visit the kids activity table at some point in the night to draw or do activities, so it’s not a bad idea to still have a kids activity table.

 

Seating Chart, Place Cards or Escort Cards?

Once you’ve gotten your final guest count completed and figured out where to put everyone, all you have to do is decide how to guide guests to their seats.

 

A Guest Seating Chart or Poster

One of the easiest ways to do this is with a Guest Seating Chart that is placed in a highly visible place during the cocktail hour.

 

Usually displayed alphabetically near the entrance of the reception, seating charts provide a large visual of all guests’ names with their designated tables. This option is the least stressful in our opinion, as it doesn’t require you to type out every guests name on a card and figure out where they will sit at their table. We provide a template for our couples that they can fill out, and then we send it off to our local printer for them. We display it in the cocktail reception on an easel, and the guests simply read their name on the chart or poster and look for their table number. You can also choose to make this a DIY project and create your own. The venue director or DJ/Emcee will inform the guests how the table numbers are arranged before they begin seating everyone.

Guest seating poster_Bella Sera

Guest seating chart DIY

Place Cards

These tented cards can be used along with an escort card or alone. Displayed in alphabetical order on a table near the entrance of the reception, they usually include the guest’s name and table number. Once at the table, guests can select their own seats.

Escort cards at platinum bella sera wedding

 

Escort Cards

These are the most formal, and take the most work. Used in the most formal seating plans, escort cards usually contain the guest’s name on the outer envelope, and their table number on the inside card. Place cards will then be placed at each place setting at each table, designating their seats.

 

 

Before creating your seating plan, ask your venue coordinator for the floor plan for your total guest count. You can experiment with various arrangements before making your final decision for where to seat everyone. When in doubt, trust your instincts. Anticipate some last minute changes to happen, as this is just part of planning an event of this magnitude. If you haven’t received all of your RSVP’s by the date requested, plan on calling those guests. It will save you a lot of stress and frustration if they were to call you at the last minute and tell you they are coming. On the flip side, you don’t want to pay for guests who don’t show up. Your venue and caterer will need your final numbers by a specific date, and most times that number cannot be changed without a change fee.

 

 

Written by Elisabeth Montoya Co-owner and Lead Designer of The Bella Sera Event Center

www.TheBellaSera.com

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